You have time.
We’re sorry. You don’t have to read any of this tonight. There is one phone call to make, if it hasn’t been made. Everything else can wait until tomorrow, or the day after, or next week. The Dutch system gives you six working days. You have time.
Right now, the only thing you have to do is ring the doctor.
The huisarts (or, after hours, the huisartsenpost) needs to come and confirm the death. Nothing else has to happen today. The funeral undertaker, the bank, the paperwork — all of that can wait until tomorrow or the day after.
If you want to read something
Three pieces, that’s all that’s open here. Each one is short. Read one, or none.
In the coming days, when paperwork starts
When you have room for the people, not just the tasks
Later, when you can sit with something longer
If this is hard right now
You don’t have to be alone in it. Someone will pick up:
- De Luisterlijn — 24/7. Call 088 0767 000 if you just need to talk to someone, about anything, for as long as you want.
- 113 Zelfmoordpreventie — 24/7, free. Call 113 or 0800-0113.
- Stichting Achter de Regenboog — support for children who have lost someone.
- MIND Korrelatie — Mon–Fri 09:00–21:00. Call 0900-1450.
When you’re ready, and not before, everly’s Personal Portal can help organise what’s done and what’s left. It’s in closed beta — you can ask for an invitation.